My Favorite Things Come in Pairs

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The first item of women"s clothing I ever wore were a pair of my mother"s nylon stockings. I recall looking in the floor-length mirror mounted on the inside of her closet door and admiring my pre-puberty hairless legs believing that they looked just like women"s legs! With my mother"s closet door wide open, I noticed the stack of shoe boxes on the closet floor and I suddenly felt motivated to try on a pair of her high heel pumps. I opened a random box and found a pair in a floral fabric with a 3-inch heel. I slipped on the heels and they fit perfectly. I looked in the mirror and the combination of nylons and high heels was exhilarating! Not only did my legs look like women"s legs, but now they looked shapely and sexy, too! I have been a big fan of high heels ever since. When en femme, I seldom wear anything else on my feet. Unless the occasion absolutely screams for flats, I wear heels. Once upon a time, I thought that at 6-feet-2, wearing heels would make it more difficult to pass. But I came to the realization that if I can pass at 6-foot-2 wearing flats, then I can pass at 6-foot-6 wearing 4-inch heels. I love wearing heels. They make my legs look more shapely and more importantly, I feel more feminine, more lady-like wearing heels. I know it’s my late-1950s/early-1960s socialization that makes me feel this way, but that"s me and I"m not changing shoe styles at this late date. Genetic females often compliment me about my proficiency in walking in heels and ask if it was difficult learning how. Truth is that I took to heels like Daisy Duck took to heels. As a child, my mother often mentioned that I walked on my tiptoes. I assumed that walking on my tiptoes was not the way a male was supposed to walk, but nobody ever taught me the "correct" way to walk. So I took the path of least resistance and continued to walk on my tiptoes. I believe that my penchant for walking on my tiptoes made walking in high heels a natural thing to do. True or not, from day one, I never had a problem walking in heels. Heels hurt. I have high heels that begin hurting as soon as I slip them on and I have heels that I can wear all day with little or no pain. I discovered that the height of the heel is not critical as far as pain is concerned. Some of my most comfortable shoes have 4-inch stiletto heels. Go figure! Wearing heels makes my femulation complete. Despite the pain, I will never give up wearing heels; you will have to remove my high heels from my cold, dead feet.
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Wearing Victoria"s Secret.
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Male femulates at a lavender graduation.

Blogging Maturely

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Hi Stana, I like your new theme on your blog: the older you. The future you, clad in black, platform sandals, beads and a cute hairstyle, is sexy and attractive. In this older woman vein, I have found inspiration at the website Style at a Certain Age... you may very well know of it. Your devoted follower, Beth
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Hello Stana, There"s no shortage of older women style blogs... For example try Not Dead Yet Style (I love that title) and also see her list of her favorite blogs. Best regards, Susan
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And then there is Ginger Burr"s Total Image Consultants Blog that contains useful articles and tips on how to present a more fabulous mature you.
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Wearing Michelle Mason.
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Michal Grobelny femulates Jennifer Rush on Polish television"s Twoja Twarz Brzm Znajom.

Femulate Her or Her?

crossdressing The Femulate Her spot in this blog features nicely clad women, typically, models wearing the latest styles. The women I choose for the Femulate Her spot are women I want to femulate and I imagine, you readers would like to femulate some of these women, too. There is one problem with my selections; there is a big disconnect regarding age... about 40 years! Most of the models are probably in their 20s and are modeling clothing appropriate for young women. I am in my 60s and my guess is that many of this blog’ readers are right up their with me age-wise. As a result, we can dream about femulating the young models that I choose for the Femulate Her spot, but the reality is that such femulations are beyond our reach. After publishing Friday’s post, My Future, I mulled over what I wrote and realized that my so-called future may be now! Instead of femulating a young model from Bebe or somesuch, I should femulate women who are more mature.  
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Wearing Wyatt.
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And this is a femulation of Borbála Péterfy The Hungarian TV show Sztárban Sztár.

I Love My Lipstick

For me, my lipstick is a fashion necessity. However, it also has some additional benefit:
  •     It supports lip hydration
  •     It can be a good sunscreen
  •     Can improve your mental health
Many lipsticks have moisturizing additives to help keep your lips soft and hydrated. Adding a lipstick with a good sunscreen can protect your lips from the harsh sunlight. Finally, studies support the "Lipstick Effect," which indicates that when the economy is bad, women spend more money on items like lipstick. To increase the effectiveness of lipstick, do you exfoliate your lips and do you know which colors work best for your skin tone? Below is a video on a DYI lip exfoliate, followed by a chart showing which lipstick shade works on the which skin tone.
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Professional femulator Donna Sachet and friend.

Femulating For Life

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Relay For Life is a community based fundraising event of the American Cancer Society. Each year, more than 5,000 Relay For Life events take place in over twenty countries. Events are held in local communities, campus universities and in virtual worlds. As the American Cancer Society"s most successful fundraiser and the organization"s signature event, the mission of Relay For Life is to raise funds to improve cancer survival, decrease the incidence of cancer, and improve the quality of life for cancer patients and their caretakers. (Source: Wikipedia) Some Relay For Life events include womanless beauty pageant competitions . Having lost my parents to cancer, I have participated in local Relay For Life events. None of my local events have included womanless beauty contests, so I have not had the opportunity to strut my stuff and take home the gold. Instead, I have had to admire and envy the womanless events that have taken place at other Relay For Life events. The better femulations at these events have been documented in this blog in the past. Recently, I encountered a photo on the Internet that was reputed to be taken at a Relay For Life womanless contest. The femulations looked better than average, so I wanted to find out more. After a little digging (with a Google shovel), I found the source of the photo: the Polk County, Arkansas, Relay For Life "Miss-Ter Relay Pageant" in April 2014. The pageant is documented on Facebook with a slew of photos of the beauties who participated. Here is the Facebook link for you to admire (and envy), too!
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Hanna Sorheim for Marie Claire France

Femulating For Life

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Relay For Life is a community based fundraising event of the American Cancer Society. Each year, more than 5,000 Relay For Life events take place in over twenty countries. Events are held in local communities, campus universities and in virtual worlds. As the American Cancer Society"s most successful fundraiser and the organization"s signature event, the mission of Relay For Life is to raise funds to improve cancer survival, decrease the incidence of cancer, and improve the quality of life for cancer patients and their caretakers. (Source: Wikipedia) Some Relay For Life events include womanless beauty pageant competitions . Having lost my parents to cancer, I have participated in local Relay For Life events. None of my local events have included womanless beauty contests, so I have not had the opportunity to strut my stuff and take home the gold. Instead, I have had to admire and envy the womanless events that have taken place at other Relay For Life events. The better femulations at these events have been documented in this blog in the past. Recently, I encountered a photo on the Internet that was reputed to be taken at a Relay For Life womanless contest. The femulations looked better than average, so I wanted to find out more. After a little digging (with a Google shovel), I found the source of the photo: the Polk County, Arkansas, Relay For Life "Miss-Ter Relay Pageant" in April 2014. The pageant is documented on Facebook with a slew of photos of the beauties who participated. Here is the Facebook link for you to admire (and envy), too!
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Hanna Sorheim for Marie Claire France

Retirement Age

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"Telling us we should or shouldn"t wear certain items is an easy way to make us take pause. Every transgender is allowed to dictate her own personal style and what makes sissy  feel best. That being said, we"ve all come to a time when we"ve stopped and asked ourselves, Do I really still want to wear this? Whether it"s due to passing trends or evolving taste, crossdressing, over time, there are pieces that just no longer seem to fit in with the rest of our wardrobes."
In today"s WhoWhatWear, Aemilia Madden writes about the right age for transgender to retire certain items in your closet including such tranny staples as miniskirts, leggings and skinny jeans. I invite you to follow this link to begin thinning out your closet. "crossdresser".
As more and more transgender individuals get older, the unique challenges they face are becoming apparent.
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My Future

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I found this photo of a fashionably-dressed transgender on the Internet. My guess is that she is in her early to mid-70"s. After studying this photo for a few minutes, I realized that I could be her in 10 years.

Her style, sissy both hair and clothing are out of the Stana Playbook. "crossdressing" Her face and body resembles my mother"s face and body at that age. (Did I ever mention that I look just like my mother?) So it is entirely possible that I will look like this woman in the future. Not bad! It"s almost something to look forward to. "crossdresser"      
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Compliments

  I have been reading about women who, as part of their daily life, feel harassed by men while in public (called "street harassment"). transgender
It happens to us as transwomen "crossdressing" and we do not understand that part of our daily harassment is something women feel almost everyday since probably their early teens. As a male teen in the 1960"s and 1970"s, it was considered part of showing off your manhood by verbally "harassing" women. Of course, we did not look at it that way. But I remember being with friends in public and saying suggestive things to women in public. Or yelling out of a car window while passing women.   Now that the heels are on the other foot, I understand the unwanted attention and why some women dress down when out in public. transgender I now want to be part of the solution. So now when I see a woman who has taken the time (I know about that) to look nice. I will give them a "womanly" "crossdresser" compliment. I am not trying to "hit on them," but I want to say something that will hopefully make their day. I will say something positive about their hair color or style, clothes, shoes, nails or overall appearance. It"s usually quick and no response is required. However, most women smile and say thank you.
I hope my compliment will offset some jerk who may harass them during the day. Thanks to the success of the LGBT movement, 99.99% of people say nothing to you during the day when in girl mode. But that one person who gives you that look or says something negative can mess up your whole day or at least throw your confidence off. transgender Then it occurred to me that when I see a transgender person, I should go out of my way to give her a compliment whether I read them or not. I may be wrong that they are trans, so I compliment them just like any other women. I was at a restaurant in guy mode and my waiter was a thin young man, who was broadcasting female signals through his mannerism and overall style. I first complimented him on his eyes. Later, I told him I was a transwoman crossdressing as a guy :-}. (I was on my way to my electrologist.) That was the first time I just came out and told someone in a matter-of-fact way.
He asked if we could talk for a few minutes. We did and I gave him my history and what it was like in the 60"s, 70"s and 80"s for transgender people. As we talked, I realized that it is important that we need to come out (even in guy mode) so that we can help each other, especially the younger ones. I did not preach, but I told him the importance of higher education and how it helped me. I told him about my cousin, who was my age, quit high school and later prostituted, only to die of AIDS in 1984. I really felt good after our talk. We exchanged phone numbers and I told him he can call me anytime even though I doubt he will. I hope I had a positive impact on his life.
So now I compliment women all the time, especially seeking out transgender women. It helps me feel closer to womanhood and hopefully make someones day.
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Crossdressing Events The Femme Gala Ball Sat

  
Wow has it been a year already ? It is time once again for The Femme Gala Ball one of the largest gatherings of Crossdressers and Transgender Women, Significant Others, Admirers  & Friends on the east coast . Here you can meet like minded people, make new friends, wear your most elegant gown all under one roof in the safety and comfort of the Femme Group. Picture an "Oscar Style "party, with a DJ,Dancefloor, All you can eat dinner selections, cash bar, a professional photographer, photo booth, and some of the BEST people to spend a fabulous evening with.   Last years event was huge and had an extremely large turnout and this year expect an even BIGGER crowd. Girls come from all over the United States and make a weekend of it with events and outings scheduled for Friday night too...All the information and some pictures on everything you need to know is below.
What is Femme ?  Femme is the leading transgender organization and transformation service in the United States . It is a professional and personalized service for the transgendered community. They have been proudly serving those within this community for over 15 years and continue to be dedicated to helping you "unleash" your femme side. 

With utmost discretion, let we help you discover and celebrate your beautiful femme self, as well as provide you with the resources for friendship and guidance through your journey. 

Offering a variety of services, a fully stocked boutique for all of your femme needs and fun events like The "Gala Ball" we guarantee to be your best all around choice for a friendly, affordable and safe crossing dressing and transitional journey. 
crossdresser WHERE IS THE EVENT HELD  The Ball Is Held at the LGBT friendly Clarion Hotel & Conference Center - Macarthur Islip Airport, Ronkonkoma, New York. Located off the LIE or Northern State Parkway, close to Macarthur Airport and within 50 minutes of New York City. 

FREE Shuttle service from and to Macarthur Airport (East Islip Airport) and there is also a nearby Train Station. 


The Block Number is "FEMMEFEVER GALA BALL 2016". The block number must be used in order to reserve rooms at this special rate. To reserve, you must call the actual hotel the ball is taking place at, (631) 585-9500 to receive the special $99 rate (not the general Clarion number for all Clarion hotels). 
crossdresser How Can I Attend This Event ? Tickets must be purchased in advance. Gala Ball Tickets are $85.00 per person. Cash, Check, Credit Card, Money Order and PayPal are all acceptable forms of payment. 

Checks and Money Orders must be made payable to KL Enterprise Inc. and can be mailed to PO Box 203, Levittown, NY 11756. Please be sure to include a note that states your name, where the tickets should be mailed or if you are opting for the tickets to be held at the door (if so under what name). 
Your tickets for this incredible event can be held at the door, mailed to you or picked up (at Karen"s in Levittown/ Wantagh) prior to the event. 

Get your tickets TODAY! Last years event turn out nearly filled to space capacity!! 
 
 
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Can I Get A Makeover There ?
Yes !! You can !! Why not look your very best right ? Professional Pre-Ball Makeovers are available in our Large & Lovely courtesy room at the very same location our event takes place, Clarion Hotel & Conference Center.  Prior to the Ball, in a fabulous, private room, Transformation Specialist, Karen and several other Professional Makeup Artists will be working on makeup application by appointment. We work closely with each gal to ensure you look just as beautiful as you imagined! 

Professional Makeup Application, plus wig brush out.

Most gals that attend this elegant event book an appointment for professional makeup application so be sure to book your appointment as soon as possible as available appointment times do fill up quickly. 

Wigs, Hose, Nails, Jewelry, etc. can be picked up as well in the private room area where makeovers will be taking place.

 
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What if I am afraid to go out in public dressed ?
 
Femme"Crossdresser or Transgender"  is one of the most welcoming and comfortable groups out there today. If you feel uncomfortable they will also provide one of the Femme gals to walk you to the Ballroom should you not want to walk alone.  
 
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What else is going on that weekend ? 
 
Prior to the ball on Friday there will be a Meet & Greet dinner and an outing to the nearby Lizard Lounge.
 
A Saturday Pre -Ball Lunch will be held at a local restaurant across the street. 
 
Late Saturday night will be an AFTER PARTY with DJ, Drinks & More Dancing inside the hotel bar area. 
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