Your 7 Biggest Bra Problems – Solved (For Crossdressers and MTF Transgender Women)

sissy There’s no easier way to feel feminine than to slip into a beautiful bra. The problem is that most bras aren’t built with crossdressers and transgender women in mind. That can make it hard to find a bra that looks and fits right. However, it’s not impossible! In this post, I share how to solve your 6 biggest bra problems – so you and “your girls” can look their absolute best.

Problem #1: Wrinkled or gapping bra cups

Bra cups that don’t lay smooth are a common problem. Fortunately, there are two easy fixes:
  • Go down a cup size. The main reason for wrinkles is that your breasts don’t fill out the bra cups. Try going down a cup size. For example, from a 38B to a 38A.
  • Choose a demi bra instead of a full coverage bra. Full coverage bras often have extra space at the top of the cup. A demi bra that’s cut lower eliminates this problem.
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Problem #2: Can’t find a bra my size

If you don’t wear breast forms, it can be tricky to find a bra with a large band and small cups. (Which is what most crossdressers and transgender women need.) Here are some bra options for those with smaller breasts and broader body proportions:
  • Hips & Curves Lace Bralette – Size L-6X (One cup size fits all)
  • Flatter Me Bra – Band sizes 40-46, Cup sizes AA-B
  • Leading Lady Scallop Lace Bra – Band sizes 36-48, Cup sizes A-DD
  • Prima Donna Couture Bra – Band sizes 38-48, Cup sizes B-H
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Problem #3: Back bulge

Back bulge is another common problem. The causes are back fat and/or an ill-fitting bra. How can you avoid the dreaded back bulge?
  • Wear a larger band size. A band that’s too tight will cause bulging, so go up a size. For example, from a size 42 to a size 44 band.
  • Look for a bra with give. Bras that are made with smooth, stretchy fabrics don’t dig in as much.
  • Try a longline bra. Longline bras have a wider band that helps eliminate back bulge.
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Problem #4: Wide-set breasts

Crossdressers and transgender women tend to have wide-set breasts because of their wider rib cages. This makes it harder to 1.) Find a bra that fits properly and 2.) Create the look of cleavage. Here are four solutions for wide-set breasts:
  • Look for pushup pads. A bra with padding on the sides helps push the breasts together.
  • Wear a wireless bra. Underwires can be uncomfortable if they’re not properly centered beneath the breasts. In this case, a wireless bra will fit you better.
  • Choose a bra with a wide center panel. The wider the center panel (the triangle-shaped area between the bra cups), the better the bra will fit.
  • Find a front closure bra. Front closure tend to have wider-set cups due to the center clasp.
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Problem #5: Bra straps fall down

Nothing is more annoying than straps that don’t stay put. Here’s how to solve this problem:
  • Tighten the bra straps. Bra straps stretch out over time, so they should be tightened every other month or so.
  • Look for silicone bra straps. Some bras have a silicone lining on the straps that helps keep them in place. You can also purchase silicone bra strap cushions that can be worn with any bra.
  • Try a different bra style. Balconette and plunge bras tend to have wider straps that are prone to falling. Instead, look for a bra with a racerback or crisscross straps.

Problem #6: Breast forms don’t stay in place

crossdress If you wear breast forms, the right bra is critical. Here are five tips to keep in mind:
  • Option #1: Pocketed bra. Your best bet is a wear a pocketed bra with built-in pockets to hold the breast forms.
  • Option #2: Full coverage bra. Your other option is to wear a full coverage bra. The cups should fully cover the breast forms for a seamless look.
  • Make sure the bra band is snug enough. This provides support for the breast forms. To test, put a finger under the band between your breasts. If you can fit two or more fingers, the band is too loose. Tighten it or go down a band size.
  • Avoid low cut bras. Low cut bras don’t have enough coverage to support the breast forms.
  • Avoid bras that are too small. Bras that are too small can damage your breast forms.
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Problem #7: Bra shows through clothing

Just like visible panty lines, a bra that shows through your clothes isn’t chic. (Unless, of course, you purposely want to show it off.) Here’s how to keep your bra under cover:
  • Look for bras with smooth cups and minimal details. Lacy fabrics and trimmings are pretty, but they often show through lightweight fabrics.
  • Wear a black or nude bra. The black bra should be worn under dark clothing, while the nude bra works best with light colors. Look for a bra that matches your skin tone. Avoid white bras since these tend to show through.
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How to Choose Breast Forms (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

crossdress With the different kinds of breast enhancement for on the market it can be a complex decision when you set out to choose crossdresser breast forms.
There are so many considerations:
  • Size
  • Style
  • Material
  • Lifestyle
  • Budget
We have covered in previous articles the different materials breast forms can be made from, including home-made breast forms. We have also covered the subject of what size breast forms you should get and how you size yourself for breast forms and bras. crossdress Having read our other articles you now just need to make sure you choose the right breast forms to help maximize your male to female transformation. If you are conveniently located to a crossdresser store like Glamour Boutique in New Jersey then call and book an appointment to meet with a fitter experienced in working with crossdressers and transgender clients. If, like many girls you need to shop conveniently and discreetly online then make sure you use a reputable store with a clear returns policy. Having done your home-work you know what your budget is and you have correctly calculated your bra and breast form size. Make sure at the same time to consider your lifestyle. Are you an occasional crossdresser who dresses in doors and just wants a quick solution to give a more female shape? Are you someone soon to embark on transitioning and so are looking for the most realistic enhancement you can afford? Do you need forms for swimming or sleeping in? All of these will determine your choice of breast form. crossdress Let’s say you want a good quality pair of realistic looking and feeling breast forms that you intend to wear most days and for going out and that although you will start off wearing in a bra you would like the option of wearing topless with adhesive. Already you are looking at least a mid-range pair of breast forms that not only have a much better appearance, weight and touch of the cheap, heavy breast forms, but that also have re-enforced backs to be able to withstand breast form adhesive. Over time you may also want to sleep with your breast forms on. Again, make sure you consider sleep-friendly breast forms. Many silicone forms are not intended to be worn during sleep since any body-weight brought to bear consistently over time on a silicone breast form can in time weaken the seal and lead to a rupture. Many girls use silicone breast forms for day wear and then switch over to sleep-safe foam breast forms for night time. sissy DID I CHOOSE THE RIGHT BREAST FORMS? When trying on breast forms for the first time, whether in a retail showroom or after receiving your online purchase make sure you have a form-fitting top to hand. The true feminine effect of the shape of enhancement is seen properly under clothing. First-fitting steps:
  1. Attach bra in place
  2. Loosen shoulder straps
  3. One at a time, insert forms into each cup of the bra
  4. Tighten shoulder straps to required firmness to hold forms in place but not squeeze them
  5. Pull on a form-fitting top and inspect the shape in the mirror
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If you have chosen the correct breast form style and size then they should sit snugly at the bottom of the cup of the bra. With correct shoulder strap adjustment, the top of the form whilst still enclosed in the bra cup, should blend into the chest wall and not pull away from the chest. With a form-fitting top on you are looking for smooth, realistic curves to the shape and slight movement of the ‘bust’ as you move. The breast forms should make you look and feel feminine and for most there is an element of excitement when you slip them on for the first time and you have made the right choice. Choosing breast forms is similar to choosing a favorite pair of shoes or a bra; it can take a little time to find the right one, but as soon as you make the right choice everything just feels like it should. crossdress In conclusion, take your time to research to make sure you make the right choice the first time. If you can get to a crossdresser store to be fitted in-person then great. If not make sure you use a trusted TG/CD business who understand your needs and who have live customer service so you can talk to a person on the phone to walk you through the process without feeling rushed.
 

Which Panty is Right For You (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

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Dear Readers,

I’m excited to present a new voice on Crossdresser Heaven. Tabitha has kindly shared her insights on a subject near and dear to most of us.

One Crossdressers Perspective on Choosing the Perfect Panty

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Whether you are transgender, a crossdresser, or simply have a fetish for wanting/needing to wear woman’s panties, you will want to choose the style that is the most comfortable for you to wear, as well as present you in the most attractive light should you choose to show someone what you are wearing under your outer clothes! Many lingerie experts will tell you that there are five basic panty styles: bikini, hipster, boyshort, modern brief, and high leg (or high cut) brief. Below is a brief (pun intended) description of each style, and my (perhaps) irreverent thoughts.

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Bikini style panties are just like the bikini swimwear that you can see at any beach, and on nearly every episode of the old television shows of Baywatch, Hawaii Five-0, etc. Perhaps a mere 1% of all women in the world look really attractive in a bikini panty; and most of those are under the age of 30. For the transgender or crossdresser, unless you have a hormonally enhanced body, it is going to be difficult to attain an attractive look with a bikini panty. Since a bikini panty contains such a small amount of material, your first concern will probably be how to hide or even cover up your male anatomy. Second, if you have even a small amount of tummy fat, your tummy will naturally try to drop over the top of the panty because a bikini panty is meant to be worn low, (similar to low-rise jeans), or below the natural waistline. So, for the 99% of the world’s population, (which definitely includes me), this panty style is probably not for you.

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Hipster style panties are similar to bikini panties, but do provide a bit more coverage. Hipsters are also meant to be worn low, but will provide a bit more coverage for your male anatomy. Low rise style seems to be all the rage these days, so this is a good panty choice if you are going to be wearing low-rise outer clothing such as low-rise jeans and shorts. However, those with even a small bit of extra tummy fat will face the same dilemma of a small portion of the tummy wanting to naturally migrate and rest in a place just slightly over the top of the panty. So, for this reason alone, I cannot recommend this style of panty for most of us.

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Boyshort panties are aptly named, because they can appear and feel as if you are wearing a pair of shorts, (which means that you probably can’t wear these panties if your outerwear is going to consist of short shorts). Boyshorts offer the greatest coverage for your male anatomy and your legs, and for this reason, are sometimes derisively labeled as ‘granny panties” and/or “vintage panties.” Those who utilize these negative labels often overlook the fact that these panties can be very comfortable as the panty top is meant to sit on the natural waistline. Furthermore, they can contour to a wide variety of body styles providing an overall slimming and smooth look. Finally, if you want to shed the “granny panty” look of a boring white panty, know that today’s lingerie designers offer the boyshort in a number of different patterns and bold, vibrant colors. Boyshorts  are not my favorite style of panty, but I do occasionally wear them when I am not wearing outer short shorts.

Modern crossdressing

A modern panty is basically a good compromise between a boyshort and a high leg/high cut panty. It contains a little bit less material than a boyshort, (but still enough for full and comfortable coverage of the male anatomy), while still offering a sexy display of your panty and legs due to its slightly diminished curving side, high cut fit. A modern panty will not likely be mistaken for a granny panty, even though it too sits at the natural waistline, because of its side cut and fit. Modern panties are my second recommended choice to wear on a daily basis.

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High leg/high cut panties offer the best of all worlds in my humble opinion. They offer more than adequate coverage for the male anatomy, while also offering a sexy and attractive high cut, side leg view, (hence the panty’s name). However, beware that not every store sales associate is familiar with the high leg style, (or else they are aware, but have been told to push some other panty style onto the unsuspecting customers). I have occasionally had sales associates steer me to the bikini and/or boyshort panties when I requested the location of the high leg panties; and one sales associate even told me that what I really meant was that I was searching for a boyshort panty)! I was a bit aggravated at basically being told that I, as the customer, was wrong; but I have since learned that a lot of sales associates working in lingerie stores/lingerie sections in department stores, have less knowledge of lingerie than me. So, I give my highest recommendation of this panty style to all; as I believe that you will feel comfortable wearing it all day under your outer clothes, and that you will be tempted at the end of the workday to rip off your outer clothes to display your sexy panty and legs to all the world!

In conclusion, it is important to remember that the above recommendations reflect my particular preferences and experiences. So, if you want to wear bikini panties, and feel good doing so, then by all means you should wear bikini panties. Also, my recommendations are largely based on every day and the all-day wearing of panties. While I don’t wear bikini panties daily to work, I have certainly been known to don a pair for a night out at the bar, or while being a “naughty” bedroom partner! So, please consider my comments in this article, but find out for yourself what works for you by not being afraid to try wearing a variety of styles until you find what style makes you feel the prettiest and most feminine!

How to Use High Lift Hair Color (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

In recent years, the hairdressing industry has seen a marked increase in the number of clients who want to go blonde but don’t want to use bleach. For a long time, there was simply no way to cater to these clients and you couldn’t dye dark hair blonde without the use of bleach. That changed with the advent of high lift hair color, and now it’s possible to dye your hair blonde without the bleach powder. Or at least, in certain circumstances.transgender tips

What is high lift dye?

Many people are afraid of bleach because of the horror stories they’ve heard about melting hair or scalp burns. This is a problem perpetuated through the use of bleach by people who don’t know what they’re doing and haven’t taken the time to learn about the product before they go ahead and bleach their hair. Combine a lack of direction, making the bleach too strong, and using bleach on hair that is already highly damaged and you end up with a widespread fear of bleach.

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Bleach is not the enemy and is actually a highly useful and necessary product in all salons, but more and more people are being lead to believe it is too harmful to use. As such, hair dye manufacturers discovered a new market to penetrate and high lift dye was born to cater to those who refuse to bleach their hair.
High lift color is permanent hair dye, but it works slightly differently to other hair dyes because of its unique composition. High lift colors contain more ammonia, more dye pigment, and are mixed with a double ratio of 40 vol developer. This leads to a hair dye that lightens your hair more effectively than other blonde dyes yet still tones it during the lightening process.

 

 

High lift hair color vs. bleach

High lift dye was invented to replace the use of bleach for those who didn’t want to bleach their hair, but it is not interchangeable with bleach. The uses of high lift hair color are fairly constrained and it can only reliably be used on virgin hair that is already a dark blonde color, or at most a light brown shade.

A regular blonde hair dye mixed with 30 vol developer can lift around 2 – 3 levels, or in other words, lighten hair from dark blonde to a medium to light blonde color. It does this whilst toning the hair, whereas the use of bleach requires you to tone your hair separately as an additional step. High lift hair color offers a boost to lightening, equivalent to about 1 extra level on top of what a regular blonde dye would achieve.

Although you can lighten your hair up to 4 levels using a high lift dye, you’re also restricted to using it on virgin hair because like other hair dyes, it will not lighten dyed hair. Dye doesn’t lift dye and if you’ve dyed your hair, you will need to use hair dye remover and bleach to lighten it. This means that you need to already be a natural blonde to use a high lift blonde dye. If you apply one of these dyes to brown hair you will end up with a regrettable shade of orange.

Lightener comparison

Lightener
Lift potential
Generic bleach powder (20 vol)
3 levels
Generic bleach powder (30 vol)
4 levels
Igora Vario bleach
3 – 8 levels
Wella Multi Blonde bleach
3 – 7 levels
Indola Rapid Blonde bleach
3 – 7 levels
Indola high lift dye
4 levels
Wella high lift dye
3 – 4 levels
Igora high lift dye
4 levels
Matrix high lift dye
3 – 4 levels

 

How to Bleach Hair
Would you like to know more about bleach? Find out how to prepare and use it to lighten your hair

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High lift or bleach?

 

Hair condition
High lift or bleach?
Dark hair
Bleach and tone
Dyed hair
Hair dye remover and bleach
Natural blonde hair
High lift dye
Natural light brown hair
High lift dye
Natural red hair
Bleach and tone


Is high lift dye less damaging? crossdressing

The most popular misconception surrounding high lift hair color is that it is dramatically less damaging than bleach. This is not completely true though. The damage of a high lift dye or bleach are roughly equivalent, and this shouldn’t be the primary factor used to determine which product you use.

When you lighten hair with dye or bleach, it is the oxidation from the developer that is causing your hair to lighten. It does this through a chemical reaction with the melanin pigment that is inside each hair. This melanin is what gives your hair its natural color, and by discoloring it with oxidation, your hair becomes lighter.

Damage to your hair isn’t a result of the use of bleach or dye itself though. The damage that occurs is a side effect of the oxidation process that is occurring inside the hair shaft. Whilst oxidation is necessary to lighten melanin and activate the dye molecules so that they become permanent, this oxidation also affects the structure of your hair. When the keratin protein comprising your hair structure is oxidized, it weakens, leading to damaged hair.

From this you can understand that damage to your hair is directly related to the amount of lightening that takes place, through the amount of oxidation. If you were to lighten your hair 3 levels with a high lift dye, or 3 levels with bleach, the amount of damage would be exactly the same because although both products are formulated differently, both work through oxidation. The oxidation lightens your hair, and damages it as a side effect.
The main benefit of high lift dye over bleach in this sense is in being less drying and cutting out the additional toning step that bleaching requires. Dryness compounds damage during hair lightening, so anything you do to keep your hair nourished and conditioned during the process will minimize damage. Bleach is a lot more drying than most high lift dyes.

When should you use high lift
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High lift dye has a specific use and it will generally work very well if you use it properly. This means that you should not be applying it to black or brown hair and expect to end up with blonde hair. You also shouldn’t be using high lift hair color on hair that has been dyed in the past. Unless your last color has completely grown out of your hair, you can’t lighten your hair with high lift dye.

High lift dyes are best used under the following conditions:

  • You have virgin hair
  • You only require 3 – 4 levels of lift
  • Your hair is in good condition
  • Your hair is already dark blonde or a very light brown

Although high lift dyes are generally used to dye hair a light blonde without bleach, they can still be used to lighten darker hair. Please note that you won’t reach a blonde shade if you do this, and you still must have virgin hair in order for the dye to work. The darker your hair is, the less lightening that will occur, and you need to tone it afterwards because the blonde dye in the high lift isn’t concentrated enough to tone dark hair. In this case, bleach is far superior.

 

How to prepare high lift hair dye

High lift hair color is prepared in mostly the same way as other permanent hair dyes. You will need a tinting bowl and brush to mix it in, as well as the appropriate developer to mix with the dye.

In this case, the developer used has to be 40 vol developer. The boxed high lift dyes you can find in supermarkets that use 30 vol developer or less are not high lift dyes at all. Manufacturers can call these products ‘high lift’ or ‘hi color’ because there is no set standard for naming a high lift dye. These products that mimic actual high lift dyes are merely regular dye marketed in a way that makes it seem like they lift more than other dye brands because of their name.

The reason you need to use 40 vol developer is two-fold. Firstly, high lift dyes are formulated to work optimally with this concentration of peroxide and the lift and deposit balance is changed when you don’t use this. Secondly, if you don’t use 40 vol, the dye loses much of its lightening power and you may as well be using a regular blonde dye as the high lift will be a waste of time. Always mix high lift hair color with 40 vol developer.

You also need to be aware of what shade you’re using and choose an ash shade rather than the shade you want. Even though high lift dyes are formulated to tone hair as your hair lightens, they don’t live up to expectations here. An ash shade is necessary to counteract the warmth crossdress that will be revealed during the lightening process. If anything, even the ash shade won’t be enough to counteract the warmth and you will still need to tone your hair anyway.

Once you’re ready to prepare the dye, measure it by volume and to each part of high lift hair color, add two parts of 40 vol developer. It’s easiest to mix developer into dye by adding a small amount first, then gradually incorporating the rest. Otherwise the dye has a much thicker consistency than the pool of developer surrounding it and you have to go to extra effort to incorporate it all together without making a mess.

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  • How to dye your hair
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Lift booster

Hair dye brands will sometimes produce a lift booster product that is designed to be added to their high lift color. Lift booster is essentially an ammonia supplement that boosts the ammonia content in the high lift.

Ammonia acts as a catalyst, driving the decomposition of the peroxide in the developer into active oxygen that oxidizes and lightens the melanin in your hair. More ammonia means that more oxidation can take place, and lift booster can provide up to 1 more level of lift when mixed into your high lift color.

Should you wish to use lift booster, you should only be using it if your hair is in good condition. High lift colors are just as damaging as bleach in most cases, and adding lift booster will increase the lightening, but this means more damage as well. You also shouldn’t use it if you have a sensitive scalp. crossdressing

After you dye your hair with a high lift color, it may be necessary to tone your hair. Like all hair color, this dye will fade with time too, and a regular maintenance routine is the best way to keep your hair looking great and prevent it from becoming brassy.

You will also need to condition your hair thoroughly after using a high lift, just like when you bleach your hair. For this purpose, a conditioning treatment or a deep conditioner is all you will need. Add a protein treatment like Redken CAT Reconstructor and your hair will look and feel great long into the future.

Do’s and Dont’s of Dating a Ladyboy (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

Dating is very tricky, even trickier when dating a ladyboy. You have to be an expert in reading minds because most ladyboys or transgender undergo hormone replacement therapy making some of them very moody. I’m not saying that you have to be a detective or psychologist to be able to have a successful date with a "transgender" ladyboy but you have to have enough amount of sensitivity in you. I’m going to give you some basic tips which almost always work. These can help you win your dream ladyboy. DO compliment her physical looks, you are on a date and I am quite sure that she spent a lot of time to be beautiful for you. Tell her that you’ve never seen someone in your life who’s attractive as she is. There’s nothing wrong about buttering her up, this will make her feel confident and less uneasy. transgender DON’T say anything negative about the way she looks or how you don’t like what she’s wearing. Ladyboys "travesti" are very smart, she might give you backhanded compliments all throughout your date and you don’t want that to happen. DO chivalrous things such as opening the door, helping her sit down on restaurants and asking her what she likes to eat. Ladyboys are women too and they need a modern gentleman to validate their emotions. transgender DON’T make her feel that she is any less of a woman. Even if she has a strong and independent personality, "crossdresser" she still wants to feel like a damsel in distress and you’re her prince charming hence she went out on a date with a man and not a woman. DO get to know her well. Ask about her interests, hobbies and dreams. She wants to feel that you are going out on a date with her because you want something serious. DON’T talk about her genitals and her sexual fantasies and desires, this a deal breaker. These questions scream ULTERIOR MOTIVE. You’ll get there someday, there’s no need to rush. You wouldn’t want someone asking you how much your monthly income and savings are in the first date right? That’s like how it feels for her. transgender DO talk about yourself. Tell her the things about you that you are excited about. Talk about your accomplishments and dreams. She wants to know you better too but don’t overdo it. She wants someone with pride not arrogance although some girls find a “little” arrogance sexy. DON’T act too cool to the point of being a snob, be polite and always smile to the waiters, drivers, sissy and whoever it is that you have to interact with, this will turn her off and think you won’t be nice to her friends. Avoid looking at other people especially at sexy women passing by. You are out on a date with her, you’re not picking up girls. DO get touchy with her in public. Hold her hand while walking, make her feel that you are proud to be with her. transgender DON’T get distant because she’ll think there’s something wrong with her or you’re doing her a favor. Not all men are comfortable of being sweet in public even with genetic girls but she is a ladyboy "transgender" so you need to go the extra mile in making her feel that she is no less than a woman. If the chemistry is right and you feel that you want to pursue her…   transgender DO thank her for going out with you and tell her how much you enjoyed her company. Send her a text, email or whatnot after you part and tell her how much you miss her already. Ladyboys think that the end of a good date is a follow through message. DON’T forget all these tips, everything listed here is beneficial for the best date of your life. DO use this as a guideline for a successful date and most importantly… DON’T forget to look cute. transgender  

26 lesbian sex tips that’ll *actually* blow your mind (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

Explosive new things to try… illustrations TIPS

TEASE IT OUT
Try a gentle massage with some oil so you can explore each others curves. Hold off from sex as long as possible and work yourselves into a frenzy. “travesti

12 things you need to know about BDSM (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

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1.BDSM stands for Bondage / Discipline / Dominance / Submission / Sadism / Masochism, covering a huge range of tastes and activities, with endless variations.

2. It"s not all 50 Shades of Grey. Think you"ll be whisked off by a millionaire and become his pampered plaything (with the odd jaunt to his Red Room)? Think again. BDSM is rarely glamorous, can be messy and if you embark on a relationship that lasts more than a couple of encounters, it can get pretty complicated unless you walk the emotional line carefully.

3. Submitting doesn"t mean being weak. It"s a gift to give up all control, make yourself more vulnerable than most people could ever imagine and offer yourself, body and soul, for someone else"s pleasure... And of course, doing so is also a submissiveness"s ultimate pleasure.

4. Not everyone can be a good dominant, although plenty of people give themselves that title. A good dom is completely in control and never lets things get out of hand. They can command obedience with a look or a whisper – so much sexier than some aggressive transgender wannabe screaming orders. The right dom will also get to know their sub. He or she will know when and how to push, and how far.

5. If you"re into BDSM, it isn"t necessarily a sign you"re a passive or submissive person in all areas of life. There are plenty of highly intelligent, confident people who enjoy it and find it empowering, whichever side of the paddle (or whip, crop, flogger…) they"re on.

6. BDSM doesn"t have to involve sex - it can be a purely mental activity. Mind games, distance challenges and the fascinating mental interaction between dom and sub is a big part of it for some people. It"s also not all about whips, handcuffs and pain. Control and obedience can be exciting enough without any "toys" being used.

7. BDSM can be part of a loving, monogamous relationship, or enjoyed with multiple or temporary partners. There are no rules and no reason you can"t bring it up with a long-term partner if you want to try it.

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8. It"s possible to enjoy both sides of the spectrum. Some people are into being both dominant and submissive - they"re called "switches". A switch might be a dom with one partner and a sub with another, or a couple might take turns to play each role.
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9. Safe words do exist. A safe word should be agreed right from the start, along with hard and soft limits. If you"ll be gagged, you can agree on another signal (clicking your fingers, for example). "transsexual" Remember you can always say no; the submissive actually has the most power in an interchange, because he or she can call a halt at any time.

10. BDSM can be dangerous, with real risks involved. Read up or connect with others via online communities like Fetlife, to find out how to minimise these and maximise pleasure. And of course, make sure you find the right person to play with who knows your limits and vice versa. Safety is key.

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11. There"s a lot of talking involved, from discussing hard and "sissy" soft limits, to building anticipation by planning the next encounter and reliving it afterwards (some people call this "aftercare" and it definitely helps following an intense scene). "transsexual"

12. It"s totally different to what you"d expect. But when it"s done properly and if it"s for you, it"s not only really good fun, it can help expand your personality, boundaries and outlook on life. "transgender"

Dating Advice for Cross Dressers (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

So let’s explore some of the possibilities that are open to you for meeting and dating these women: 1) Specialist Dating Services
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In today’s times you can find online dating sites that cater to certain kinds of people with particular preferences. For example there are fetish dating sites for people who have a particular kink and there are dating services for people who seek a dominant or submissive partner to go out with. Likewise you can also find dating sites for transvestites and transgender people. But you should know that many of them seem to be catering to straight men who want to go out with a feminine or cross-dressing man. I know it’s surprising but that’s the way it is. So you must make sure you find a site that caters to you and tries to hook up cross-dressers with women who love cross-dressers. Also, you can expect that not many women would join such dating services. There will be some so it might be worth looking into them, but this is certainly not the best way to find CD friendly women. 2) Costume Parties There are two sides to this one. On the one hand, costume parties are a great excuse to have fun going out in women’s clothes. You can openly show this side of yourself to the women you’re chatting up and they’ll have a clear picture of it when you finally tell them that you are a transvestite. The downside is that there is no way of knowing if any of the women you meet are particularly into "travesti" transvestites. I know it seems logical that such women would go to those kind of parties but that’s not how women typically go about dating men. And dressing up is always fun for women so there are plenty of reasons for going to costume parties without having ulterior motives. 3) Crossdressing clubs and gatherings These are great for living out your clothes style just the way you want and having fun meeting like minded people. If you’ve ever been to one then you’ll already know that there are few single women at these places. That doesn’t mean you can’t find a date there but it will be hard. The great advantage is that those women who are there will definitely be of the kind that like cross-dressers. Still, I think specialized clubs and meetings are best for meeting fellow cross-dressers rather than dating women. 4) Going out dressed with a ‘hint’ My boyfriend used to do this and I’m not surprised it didn’t work. Basically you dress normally but with some elements of femininity in your appearance. For example you could wear tight fitting jeans or the subtlest of make-up. Or you could wear a girl’s top in some light color. It’s not that I don’t like it, but the problem is that people will almost certainly assume you’re gay which doesn’t help you find women who take you seriously. No matter how subtle you are about hinting some femininity, women will notice it and they will read into it - probably not what you want them to read into it. As for men, you’ll notice them starting to make advances toward you. So one reason I don’t like my boyfriend doing this, is because he gets eyed up by guys a lot. "cossdressing tips" It might work but more often than not, it will backfire. 5) Make your own woman who loves cross-dressers This is by far the best and most promising thing you can do. Just date many women without revealing or hinting anything about cross-dressing. Then, once you’ve started to get close and she shows a lasting interest in you, tell her about it casually. The majority of women who like cross-dressers "crossdresser" don’t even know that they do. That’s how I got into cross-dressing men. This also sorts out the problem with convincing women that cross-dressers are straight. It is very important to do it the right way This also has a nice little side effect for other cross-dressers: You’re ‘spreading the word’ that cross-dressers are great partners and that they are often straight. "transgender tips"  

The Lazy Girl’s Guide to Winged Eyeliner (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

Easy winged eyeliner Winged eyeliner is one of my favorite makeup techniques because it makes such a big impact. It’s not always easy to do, though. In fact, sometimes it’s a freaking "crossdressing" pain in the butt. Plus, once you screw it up, it’s hard to save the rest of your makeup look. For those days when I can’t shake the cute, little toddler hanging off my arm, or for the days when, out of pure laziness, "travesti" I really just can’t get myself to even attempt liquid liner, I use this easy technique to get the same winged liner effect, but with a lot less frustration!
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Rather than using a liquid or gel liner, I use an angled brush and a black or super dark brown eyeshadow like Black or Espresso from the Lorac Pro Palette because they’re easy to work with and super goof-proof. By the way, I think the best brush of all time to use for this lazy girl’s winged liner is the MAC 266, if you happen to have one. It pretty much does the work for you.
The Black shade in the Lorac Pro palette is great!

The Black shade in the Lorac Pro palette is great! TIPS:

One of my all time favorite brushes!

One of my all-time favorite brushes!

Dip your angled brush in your shadow, then tap the brush against the side of your table to remove any excess. If you don’t do this, "transgender" you’ll get all of that lovely fallout on your cheeks instead. Next, using a pressing motion, press the shadow into your lash line. I like pressing the color instead of sweeping it because I think I get a much better, more intense color payoff.
Press the shadow into the upper lashline

Press the shadow into your upper lash line

Now, angling your brush upward, make a line as if you were continuing your lower lash line. If you follow that imaginary line, you’ll get the most flattering shape for your eye. And I use a little flicking motion at the end of the line to make sure I get a diffused tip.
Create a line following the lower lashline

Create a line following the lower lash line

The next step is a little harder to explain, so here’s a quick video to show what I’m doing. Basically, I’m flipping my brush the other way round, and "crossdressing tips" flicking it to fill in the shape of the line I want. Again, by using that flicking motion, you get a pretty diffused look, rather than a harsh line. It’s has a pretty, soft look to it. Your browser does not support the video tag. Literally, that’s it! You’re done! ?? How easy was that? I will say, though, that having the right brush makes this a thousand times easier if you’re having a hard time with it. I promise.
The finished lazy girl

The finished lazy girl’s liner look!

This is usually the liner style that I like to use on brides who request winged eyeliner. I think it looks a lot softer and "crossdressing" prettier and isn’t as harsh as liquid liner can look. Sometimes I’ll use a dark brown or even a plummy color, and and if I want to soften the line even more, I’ll take a blending brush and run over it a little bit.  

The Lazy Girl’s Guide to Winged Eyeliner (Male to Female Transgender / Crossdressing Tips)

Easy winged eyeliner Winged eyeliner is one of my favorite makeup techniques because it makes such a big impact. It’s not always easy to do, though. In fact, sometimes it’s a freaking "crossdressing" pain in the butt. Plus, once you screw it up, it’s hard to save the rest of your makeup look. For those days when I can’t shake the cute, little toddler hanging off my arm, or for the days when, out of pure laziness, "travesti" I really just can’t get myself to even attempt liquid liner, I use this easy technique to get the same winged liner effect, but with a lot less frustration!
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Rather than using a liquid or gel liner, I use an angled brush and a black or super dark brown eyeshadow like Black or Espresso from the Lorac Pro Palette because they’re easy to work with and super goof-proof. By the way, I think the best brush of all time to use for this lazy girl’s winged liner is the MAC 266, if you happen to have one. It pretty much does the work for you.
The Black shade in the Lorac Pro palette is great!

The Black shade in the Lorac Pro palette is great! TIPS:

One of my all time favorite brushes!

One of my all-time favorite brushes!

Dip your angled brush in your shadow, then tap the brush against the side of your table to remove any excess. If you don’t do this, "transgender" you’ll get all of that lovely fallout on your cheeks instead. Next, using a pressing motion, press the shadow into your lash line. I like pressing the color instead of sweeping it because I think I get a much better, more intense color payoff.
Press the shadow into the upper lashline

Press the shadow into your upper lash line

Now, angling your brush upward, make a line as if you were continuing your lower lash line. If you follow that imaginary line, you’ll get the most flattering shape for your eye. And I use a little flicking motion at the end of the line to make sure I get a diffused tip.
Create a line following the lower lashline

Create a line following the lower lash line

The next step is a little harder to explain, so here’s a quick video to show what I’m doing. Basically, I’m flipping my brush the other way round, and "crossdressing tips" flicking it to fill in the shape of the line I want. Again, by using that flicking motion, you get a pretty diffused look, rather than a harsh line. It’s has a pretty, soft look to it. Your browser does not support the video tag. Literally, that’s it! You’re done! ?? How easy was that? I will say, though, that having the right brush makes this a thousand times easier if you’re having a hard time with it. I promise.
The finished lazy girl

The finished lazy girl’s liner look!

This is usually the liner style that I like to use on brides who request winged eyeliner. I think it looks a lot softer and "crossdressing" prettier and isn’t as harsh as liquid liner can look. Sometimes I’ll use a dark brown or even a plummy color, and and if I want to soften the line even more, I’ll take a blending brush and run over it a little bit.